STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR LIFE – IF YOU STILL HAVE YOUR ARMS AND LEGS AND YOU ARE ABLE TO THINK, LOVE AND ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS, YOU ARE STILL OK!

Remark: Blogger did not allow me to write too long title, so it is actually supposed to say good instead of okei. And I would like to dedicate this blog to Martin, the one who has always supported me. Okei, here we go !

We have no right to complain over our simple lives. Yes, they get hard every once in a while, but every person is going through many things through one lifetime. And why do we presume that we are special, when there are still people who suffer more because they are hungry or do not have fresh drinking water (and no way it is going to change with this attitude!).

When I was younger, I used to complain about everything. If my sister took my shoes, or if the school system was against me, or if I had to do things I did not like. If something was not right, I simply was not happy. Maybe I am a spoiled brat, but in the end, I changed something. And that was because I knew that I was complaining too much and had to get rid of it, if I wish to live as a normal human being. And besides, my parents did not appreciate me being winey all the time. And in the end I had to respect myself and them. So, that is why I removed myself from my society and country, my parents and friends. At first, I was complaining even more, but in the end I got used to the new situation. I saw a world with a new pair of eyes – through realistic and a little bit pinkish glasses J I had a widened view of the world and I started to realize that there is not only me in the center of everything.

The reason, why I wanted to write about this topic, is the fact that the point when I realized that I really am blessed, then why can’t I contribute something to the world. There are many people nowadays, who have the brains to do something more with what they have been given, instead of complaining even more. Many famous examples are The Venus project and Jacque Fresco, the Zeitgeist project. A few days ago I saw a short movie KONY, which turns the world into a new direction of making good by making Joseph Kony famous (so go watch the movie and write KONY everywhere. Seriously!!!). It is amazing what people can do – all we have to realize is that WE HAVE THE POWER TO DO EVERYTHING.

So why do we still keep hiding in our dark room and think that the world has done all the bad things, and simply don’t want any part in it? Are we seriously complaining more than taking action into our own hands? And the KONY project is done by young people, how come us, older people think that our life is hard? We need to start growing up…

And we need to start seeing the bigger picture.

I guess there will come a point in everyone’s life, when we need to make a decision. For me it was by coming to a foreign country and learning everything by myself. By the way, I even didn’t know how to cook back then. And now I can make a number of dishes, but I know I have still a lot to learn. It was hard at first, but I have managed so far and I refuse to give up on cooking and on life. Who knows, if I continue, I might do something good instead of crying about hard shit happening to me all the time. It all depends whether I hide from life or take it with every possible sense I had been given.

But I have learned the most valuable lesson in life, which I can say to anyone who dares to complain and remind myself this all the time: it does not matter where you come from. We are all so called “victims” of different cultures, society, environment and life itself. What really matters is what you can do about it and how you choose to live. And one day you have to crawl out of the den anyway and see that there is much more to the world than shit. Yes, there is shit too every once in a while. But if you survive coming out of the shit which just happened to be at your way, you can manage anything… absolutely anything. (Then you already know ;)

So, if you are a healthy human being and just complaining about simple things, you might want to rethink your values in life.

Successful examples:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sEzJnheUIXc
http://vimeo.com/37119711 – KONY
http://www.zeitgeistmovie.com
http://www.thevenusproject.com
http://thesecret.tv – for a new start
http://www.deepakchopra.com

Oh, and you have to be interested in things – genuinely!
Love you all!

Everything driven by passion has greater value... it just depends what are your values.

just another writing...

What is in common with a smoothie and article writing?

Me... Too easy and selfish? Okei. Let me try to explain this in a different way.

Firstly, I would like to point out, that both of these processes demand patience and carefully considering what are you adding and what not to do. When we make a smoothie, it is more for the delight of the taste. Therefore, we mostly take sweet things like fruits and some juice or milk. But we are able to do it with everything else. And why don’t we do it.

I personally never liked tomato juice and I would never add it in a drink. That is why I have not tried to make one with tomatoes or other vegetables. It could very well be that I might do it in the future with other vegetables like carrots, but never tomatoes. Now, writing an article is like making a smoothie. Not all people like the same topics. So, a writer has to take a topic which she or he is good at and can make a story about. As with tomatoes, ships or car technology is not my area, since I do not like it that much.

Overall, everything depends on the content. An article must have technological aspects combined with opinion, but that all has to make sense to a reads. A smoothie also has to be approved by the person who makes and tastes it. So, there you go, similarities between writing an article and a smoothie.

Probably not one of my highlights, but I am on the edge of finding out, what I really want. And right now I want a nice cold smoothie with fruits and orange juice.

The Strange Breeze

A woman is sitting on a bench by the sea. She is looking into the distance and like looking for something. She has a thin dress on and is with a bicycle next to her.
A man is walking by. She spots her and asks kindly, what might she be looking for. The woman answers that there is always some beauty in the leaving ships. And that her husband was on one of them. She talked about him and his work on the ship. She used to go along with him, but not anymore. She gets easily sea sick and does not have so much patience to be on the sea all the time.
The man listens to her carefully, while he thinks about her wife.
"Are you married?" asked the woman.
"I was. She passed away not long ago. She had a heavy disease." said the man.
"I am sorry. You must miss her." said the woman kindly.
"Yes, but I have learned to cope with it and live on."
And they both had some sadness in their eyes - both for the absence of a loved one who can not be replaced. They watched quietly to the sea where the red sun was setting. It was a mild weather and the wind gently touched them. It was like a breeze for something new, perhaps a long lasting friendship.
"I will come here tomorrow. Will you be here?" asked the man.
And the woman nodded. They both looked into each others kind eyes and saw some strange warmness. Like they had know each other for more than these five minutes.
"I will see you tomorrow." said the woman and kept on watching the sea while the man was walking away. And the mild breeze was even milder.

Toughest job ever - being a good teacher

Somewhere between the lecture about moisture not going through the building if the pressure is too big inside and the group work of finding the perfect plan layout for a factory, I had my doubts about the perfect model for a teacher. Is it really that difficult to teach and prepare for lectures, that a teacher is not able to do that? Or are there just people who are not suitable for teaching?
In a student life we meet a lot of teachers. Some we like and the others tend to be not so pleasant. And if another person next to us has the chance to express his or her feelings, then one might like the teacher that I have no common language at all. But that does not make anyone more unintelligent.
A friend of mine said golden words that we can not like all people. We are not obligated to like or even care for everyone. But we must be able to work with them, so students and teachers both need to have a level of humanity and tolerance. So, why do some teachers refuse or ignore the ethics of humanity?
Let me describe the situation happening in the classroom. The teacher is explaining the same thing again, but not the necessary information, but minor details blowing into a really big air bubble. And then during his lecture he gets confused many times, like he has never seen his power point presentations before. Yes, they say that a power point is not the best way of making these things. But nevertheless, every teacher should know their field and what the heck did they write in the slides. Students can make mistakes, teachers can not allow themselves to let go so easily.
And that was not it. The teacher was laughing at remarks, which made the students look like they have no idea what he is talking about. Like that we have to understand some information about calculating and he would just laugh because it seemed likely that we can not handle it. Talk about being rude.
So, how can other people take him as an example or a teacher. I know, that in nowadays world students have even worse cases of teachers. Why does a teacher want that job anyway, if one can not handle it and is more of a bad role model? Is it because of the money or because no one else wanted it. Or is it a calling...
You know, I do not consider myself wise in this case, that I need to become a teacher. A teacher is someone, who is capable of arts and has many sides. The one who has been trough pedagogical education and who is also humain and moral.
The teacher who I have encountered does not have these qualities, but I am not the judge in this. As I have my own opinion, then I believe that not anyone should qualify as one. Then again there are all kinds of people in this world. Me being one of them... and not everyone likes me. And that is only fair.
There is a famous saying from Tao Te Ching that says if there is not a proper teacher, the student will fail. I hope that will not be the case in my situation, because I would really hate to spend my time unwisely.
But I admire the teachers, especially the good ones. As my grandmother is one excellent teacher liked by all her students, which is worth more than all the stupidity on this planet.

To Oscar and the free will of writers...

I made a promise - I will write every day something. I have doubts about what is my area of topics and what should I concentrate in overall.
Many of my previous works have been either really fictional and artistic, you know like Kafka and fairy tales or something in the middle (if that even exists ;). And some teachers have also said that I have talent in writing. As well as my reports seem to have positive grades... it could be my personality as well :D. Okei, enough with the ego.
But seriously, for the next month I will write and write and write ... I heard that the trick is not to go to sleep until you have written your words for the day.
So, that was what I wanted to write about today.
You know the feeling, that you need to get something out of you, and writing seems to be one of those ways of doing it. And whatever you put on the paper, it will still make sense, because you created it. At least, that is on the good times... on the bad times, there is so much self-criticism and it is impossible to quiet the mind for correcting all the mistakes.
But for a writer it is the same as for the artist (painter) - if the work needs editing, then it should be done until it is ready. But sometimes, the creation is overwhelming that there is nothing needed to add or take away. In my opinion, that is what art and self expression is all about - to find the inner balance between reality and self-criticism.
Before I end, I would like to quote my favorite writer Oscar Wilde: "Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation." (1905)
It is not that we are fake, which might be in some cases. But we tend to loan or take thoughts from someone else unconsciously. So if you think you are genuine, then it is not so. I remember all the words and habits, which I have inherited from the world and other people.
Thank you for the experience for making me who I am today!

How is this relevant to the communication between people?

Just watched a bit of Zeitgeist – it always makes me more aware of the world. I might not agree with everything, but then again a lot in there is how I feel as well. But yeah, same problem again, how do you start changing the world, which still lives in old ways. There is no way that all people agree to one kind of arrangement.

We can see examples of this in everyday communication as well. People just have difficulties in finding a common language. It can be even a smallest and the most pointless topic. And if a person is willing to defend some unreasonable argumentation, then there is no way that mind can be changed.

Recently I had two arguments, which I can claim with certainty, that these could have been prevented, if both sides would be willing for compromises. Firstly, my boyfriend and I had a serious topic about my financial status and work. The problem was that I have to put my working hours in later afternoon, because I have school. On the other hand, I do not want to lose my job, because it would be more suitable for the employer. In the end, the argumentation was unsolved, because I we physically did not have the strength to fight.

So, what was the point of stressing all these nerves, if communication in the end fails anyway? And even if one of us tries to prove the point in a nice manner, still the one feels being attacked.

Another example is with the person who provides me with this job. We both had a misunderstanding about payment. I tried in a nice manner to explain that this is how things are, but she seemed not to understand at all and be stuck with one line, like she was insulted. So again, a problem unsolved, because two people do not know exactly how to connect with each other.

There are many self-help books for how to communicate with people. I really like that Dale Carnegie suggests staying positive and getting your way with that method. It seems that it makes the people do your way. Dealing with a person, who has a hard day or is just not willing to make any compromises, because he or she does not want, is not stupidity, but as Deepak Chopra puts it - pain in a person and unconscious actions regarding it. Believe it or not, but all our prisons are filled with people like that. (And they call me crazy.)

In the end, I do not think that money is that important to spend your nerves on fighting. And if I cannot do anything about it, then it is not worth the fuzz (Dale Carnegie).

I would like to end this blog with the topic I started with. The Zeitgeist Movement proposes that all people should be more conscious towards our lives. They put in simple words – man, think what is happening around you and whether you like it or not. In the end it is in every person’s free will whether they absorb everything in the society or think outside the tv-box. And Zeitgeist is a good beginning to that direction. At least a persons’ view of the world is not so narrow.

Who has not seen it yet can visit youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/user/TZMOfficialChannel

Did you notice what I just did?
I made a contradiction within this writing. In the beginning I say that there is no way that all people agree to the same thing. In the end I make a certain remark, that people should be more conscious and watch Zeitgeist. So, I like people thinking my way. Heh…
And in the end it is up to every person, because no one is forced to do anything. (Except our society’s who need to fight in Afghanistan. And our governments, who steal money from the people, not only in the US.)